STUDY: Talking about your problems is a waste of time
(Science Daily)–“For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak,” said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the MU College of Arts and Science. “However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn’t express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls. Instead, boys’ responses suggest that they just don’t see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity.”
You hear that girls?!?! Science took the words right out of my mouth. It’s not that we don’t have feelings or that we don’t care about yours or that we are afraid to share…its that talking about feelings is a complete waste of time. Men just don’t have time for sitting and sharing. Its been that way from the beginning of time. “I know you want to talk about your day and how ridiculous the other cavechick’s outfit was, but sorry I have to go kill a woolly mammoth, start a fire, and invent the wheel“. There are only so many hours in the day. So next time you think your boyfriend or husband is emotionally unavailable, you should remember that he is actually just using time management skills on a level you can’t even comprehend.
PS: This is also why girl fights are a billion times worse/obnoxious. Girls will have feuds for like years over nothing and treat each other like shit. If guys have a real issue, it may come to blows, but after that is usually over. Quick burst of aggression, whoever wins the fight was right, and we move on with our lives.
PPS: I love January Jones.
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